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無意間看到這段傳道的影片 [VIDEO]...

是英文的，把條列的一些觀點翻譯如下

挺感嘆人生功課，還有很多都還在學吧...

一切都是出於 神、他藉著基督使我們與他和好、又將勸人與他和好的職分賜給我們．  這就是 神在基督裡、叫世人與自己和好、不將他們的過犯歸到他們身上．並且將這和好的道理託付了我們。 神使那無罪的替我們成為罪．好叫我們在他裡面成為 神的義。  ~ 哥林多後書 5:18-19;21 

And all things are of God, who hath reconciled us to himself by Jesus Christ, and hath given to us the ministry of reconciliation; That is, that God was in Christ making peace between the world and himself, not putting their sins to their account, and having given to us the preaching of this news of peace... For he made him to be sin for us, who had no sin; that we might be made the righteousness of God.    ~ 2 Corinthians 5:18-19;21

GOAL: Reconciliation

和解不是

1. 將你的行動在其他人心中合理化。
2. 完全的理解/被理解。
3. 去說服他人是錯的。

Reconciliation is not

1.   justifying your actions in the mind of the other person.
2.   to be completely understood.
3.   convincing the other person that he or she is wrong.

和解，是儘管過去有所冒犯、目前仍有衝突分歧，但依然去接納為特點的關係。

The goal of reconciliation is a relationship characterized by ACCEPTANCE in spite of past offenses and current differences. It’s not about resolving the past, resolving past conflict, now we all see the thing the same way…

反對聲音就出現了：但如果他們將我接納的行為解釋作"縱容"他們去做他們做的事呢？

Objection: but what if they interpret my acceptance as condoning what they’ve done?

但你必須決定：你要採取你的立場，或建立一個和平的關係？

You have to decide: Are you going to take a stand or build a relationship?

和解開啟了和諧關係的道路，也開啟了具有影響力的道路。

Reconciliation paves the way to relationship, which paves the way to influence.

創建一個安全的環境：

1. 窺探或威迫事沒有用的。
2. 安全環境的特點是謙遜和接納。
3. 和解主要不是為了解決衝突。

Create a safe relational environment:

1. Prying or coercing doesn’t work.
2. Safe environments are characterized by humility and acceptance.
3. Reconciliation is not primarily about conflict resolution.

最好的防守辯護就是沒有防守辯護。 - 防守辯護在想贏一場辯論的時候是很好的，但它卻對和諧的關係不是很好。
和解往往需要我們肩負別人的所做決定的後果和後遺症。但如果你仔細想想，我們的犧牲了卻也是獲得。

The best defense is no defense. – A defense is good when you want to win an argument; it’s not good in relationship.
Reconciliation often requires that we shoulder the consequences and complication of someone else’s decision. But if you think about it, we’ve all been on the receiving end of that kind of sacrifice.